Life contains a number of events that define turning points. "Before graduation", "after I had kids", and "once I got promoted", for example.
Last week now stands as one of those events. My husband developed a major mental status change. Within 24 hours we diagnosed his brain tumor and had it out the next day. He is much better now mentally, but we have a long road ahead of us.
In those first days, adrenaline kept me going. I had to notify family and get through the immediate issues. (By the way, 140 character twitter updates are the perfect length for anyone in a surgery waiting room. Cute animal photos also make a nice break in the tension.) Post-op, he was sitting up in the ICU talking to us again. Every time I saw him over the next 5 days he was more fluent and seemed more like himself.
Now the relatives have gone and the bouquets are fading. He manages his own medications again. He does not yet feel like he should drive (and he is grounded till his neurosurgery follow-up in 2 weeks), but he wants to use our OKC Thunder tickets this Friday. His progress is not as fast, but we both hope it will continue.
We no longer have any idea what our future holds. For now, we are dealing with stuff as it happens. Be warned - this blog will likely feature some intense introspective naval-gazing in the coming weeks and months.
Welcome to After.